The Drama Spiral
Right, so when in SL you must be prepared for childish behavior. I admit to partaking in some of it myself – such as RIGHT NOW, because sometimes things happen that are just so UGH. I make it pretty clear when I meet people that I am more interested in them as a RL person than their avatars on SL. Sometimes people are very unwilling to open up about anything – even after a few weeks of knowing them. Contrary to popular belief, I am not trying to figure out who they are as an individual, where they live, etc. I am just curious and like to know more about people.
If people refuse to reveal basic information about themselves unless I guess at it and pull it out of them, I get pretty bored and frustrated. There’s only so much you can talk about that pertains only to SL. Those who say SL=SL and RL=RL and the two have no bearing on each other are lying to themselves and/or hiding something. Therefore, I try to avoid them. I’ll speak to them in open chat and perhaps occassionally IM with them if I am feeling goofy, but as a serious, long-term contact it just wouldn’t work out.
This causes me to delete some people from my friend’s list after I have realized they will refuse to open up. SL moves quickly and there’s no guarantee of how long either party will be sticking around. To me, it’s not worth keeping someone on as a contact if I am going to have more frustration and annoyance from talking to them than pleasure.
Blaming ME publicly in a profile for a trait that was present long before I had been met is even more childish than being deleted from my contacts list without warning, but for real reasons. It smacks of ’scorned lover.’ So I guess if the person WERE a scorned lover it’d be understandable, but as they aren’t it just seems to be overreacting.
And in turn, I overreact to that overreacting and the drama level spirals upwards.
OK, no more sniping and griping. I have an outfit that I will blog about later today.
